Book, Father, Indonesia, Life, Review

Buku tentang Bapak

Setiap baca buku bagus, perasaan pengen nulis dan mempatenkan perasaan excited yang mirip kayak dikasih coklat satu box gede itu langsung membumbung tinggi.
Pensil, laptop, HP, tab, langsung saya cari, sebelum perasaannya “hilang”.
Orang yang duduk disebelah atau diseberang ruangan pun jadi sasaran empuk buat dicurhatin isi bukunya.
Sampe sering mereka suruh saya baca buku yang mereka pengen baca, terus saya ceritain ke mereka.
Mungkin mereka butuh “moment” ngetawain saya yang kalau cerita selalu tanpa alur dan penuh cekikikan.
Weird, but hey, that’s the fact I’ve been living.

2 tahun terakhir ini, demi mengejar target memperluas area baca, Saya nyoba baca beberapa buku yang tebelnya bisa bikin benjol.
Tapi entah kenapa yang berhasil ‘nyentil’ selalu buku sederhana yang tebelnya ga sampe 300 halaman.
Bahasanya ga ribet, ceritanya ga kompleks, tapi sukses bikin otak muter dan berpikir.
Pertama, Diary of Young Girl nya Anne Frank.
Kedua, A Monster’s Call nya Patrick Ness.
Ketiga, buku ini.
Emang bener ya, apapun yang dilakukan, ditulis, di capture pake hati, sesederhana apapun itu, pasti bisa dirasakan sama orang disekitarnya.
Happiness is contagious, kalo kata Paulo Coelho.

Back to the story, buku ini.
Kenapa Saya bisa segitu terjeratnya sama pesona buku ini?
Familiarity, mungkin alasan yang paling tepat.

Long story short, inti buku ini adalah tentang hidup 2 anak lelaki yang jatuh cinta sama Bapaknya, yang unfortunately, udah meninggal dari mereka kecil.
Familiar banget sama betapa “tergila-gilanya” 2 anak cowok ini ke Bapaknya.
Ketika kepribadian mereka dalam mengambil keputusan hidup itu bermuara dari pesan-pesan Bapaknya ke mereka.
Ketika mereka jadi terkesan pamer dengan achievement Bapaknya, padahal memang bagi mereka Bapaknya ya seluar biasa itu.
Ketika mereka inget gimana Bapaknya selalu push mereka buat bermimpi sampai mimpi itu diketawain orang banyak, tapi Bapaknya juga ga kalah tegas nyuruh anaknya untuk bikin rencana dan deadline hidup.
Ketika saking jatuh cintanya anak sama Bapaknya ini, hari Sabtu yang keramat bagi anak muda untuk ngumpul dengan anak-anak seumuran pun dengan senang hati didedikasikan buat punya quality time sama Bapaknya.

Buku yang ngingetin saya, kalo jadi orang tua itu ternyata susah ya, kisah hidupnya, kata-katanya, sampe marahnya pun jadi panutan buat anaknya.

Anyway, makasih banyak Mas Wisnu, si calon Bapak terbaik yang udah mau direpotin nyariin buku yang abis dimana-mana ini, ditambah harus dengerin bocah ini cerita malem – malem lagi.
Semoga dari 5 bulan kedepan sampai seterusnya bisa jadi Bapak yang selalu jadi inspirasi dan panutan anaknya, which surely I believe you’ll absolutely be 🙂

Mungkin ini tandanya udah waktunya saya cuti buat 2 orang terbaik sedunia di rumah Jakarta.
Dan hey, Adhitya Mulya, you’re missing a daughter character, who absolutely fell all over the heels to her father, just like me 😉

Book, Economy, Review, The Age of Selfishness, Thought, USA

The Age of Selfishness

I believe that no person in this world is considered selfless. Being selfish, or merely doing everything for the sake of our own, is humanity in real life. But how far, do we allow ourselves to neglect the altruism, within our society?

Politics and economics, two sectors that has been a quint essential of human development, are the main player in every nation in this world. Countless people has taken expertise in these subjects, leads to tons of theoretical view published nowadays, as people understood that to take over the world, you need to master the skill of both. Economics control how the world finances themselves, the welfare of society, and the distribution of money. While in politics, you learn and set strategy on how to control people.

But what people did leave behind most of the time, is how moral dimension, could turn both of these subjects, to a completely different side of coins.

It’s incredibly accessible, you know, to read economic articles of the reason behind 2008 financial crisis, how the establishment of the famous credit default swaps led to house bubble effect, and the rest of the history. What’s been missing is the story behind how this option could actually rise and implemented, which in the end cause the catastrophe.

To simplify, this book made a new common sense that moral erosion, is indeed the main reason of this disaster. When objectivism, the new philosophy Ayn Rand introduced, has been injected to the mind of not only business player, but also leader as crucial as Alan Greenspan, the US Federal Reserve mastermind in terms of crisis, it could bring a whole new financial term that seemed foreign before, and at the end lead to whatever happened in the late 2008.

Objectivism, is the ideology who believe that the right of individual were paramount and not to be interfered with by the majority. They believe that everyone needs to be true to himself and his own ideals, and the idea of government and any system that reduced individual rights for the sake of common goods or as we called it nowadays collectivism, were need to be destroyed to achieve a proper life.
Basically, according to objectivism, true prosperity and freedom can only be gained through unrestrained free market.

Now imagine when Greenspan apply this idea to financial world, when he turned the tightly-regulated banking system, to an unregulated one, opening a lot of boundaries that used to be inaccessible for financial agency to do. To make it worst, financial agency were coordinated with each other tightly, making these huge mistakes became a systematic disaster, when one group failed, the rest will only need to sit back and wait for their time to come.

His reasoning, which is that reputation, is the only effective and needed way to desolate companies from building unsafe structures. Regulation, administration, and government law, are not necessary, especially in securities trading area, because every ups-and-down in financial market were calculated based on reputation built by customer satisfaction.
But what if, the reputation itself, is engineered by group of people, whose head were profit-obsessed, they turn blind eyes while building a financial house of cards? When investment banks, who should be giving a constructing advice to companies who wanted to expand their businesses, are being selfish and prioritized their mind to profit-enhancing program, whether it was ethical or not. When credit-rating companies were manipulated by those whom they have to asses, for of course, more profit to both parties.

Crisis is in fact, the moment when the collapse of ethics combine with poor regulation took place. The obsession to turn this world into a free market leads not to personal freedom as we fantasized of, but to corporate freedom. Company seems to allow predatory, value destroying behavior to become more profitable, and able to risks everything, even honest work ethics.

I could not explain much further in financial terms, since I have not enough knowledge about that sort of thing, but I do entirely enjoy the way this book explain a financial crisis, from a human-psychology point of view. How in fact one tremendous thought, could affected how human system works.
The most important part of this book, which I found extremely needed for both younger and older spectrum of society, is the fact that although we are day by day moving towards a liberated world, somehow being conservative in the form of having regulation in financial institution is still important and substantial.


Most importantly, is to incorporate kindness to consideration, in every decision we took.
Inequality will never leave this world no matter what we did, what we invent, what we construct. The way we handle differences, is the core value of being a fair and descent human being.

To be selfless is not a sense of weakness. To share and contribute for a greatest possible good is always, always a good thing.
One of the best book I’ve ever read so far.

Book, Indonesia, People, Random, Review, Thought


I’ve just recently read one book that, according to a LOT of sites, is one of the essential book you need to read as Indonesian, especially youngster, who wanted to know further about Indonesian in early ages of its democratic era.

Note that I’ve never have a chance to watch the popular movie “Gie” that people had been raving about. So this is my very first encounter of the infamous Soe Hok Gie, the Chinese-heritage Indonesian who lead the student rebellion in 1960’s, a couple of years after Indonesia celebrated their independence from long period of colonialism.



First thing first, let me say that I do NOT adore Gie like everybody else do, nor do I think He’s a good leader.

But I think He’s quite a fascinating character since the beginning. I do adore how he reads TONS of books, watch different kind of movies, which I think built his character a LOT.

His biggest weakness, in my opinion, is how perfectionist he look upon things. How he look on people, how smallest mistake people did really bother him so much, he started hating lots of people.

I do understand how society thought about him as a communist, when Gie has bragged on and on about his resentment to dictatorship, or people who rule and stand out, while whole people in his nation are undernourished and impoverished.

He wanted the “perfect” world, which are: a) all distributed equally and ethnicity solidarity is prioritized, b) no one rules, or if there’s one, he should be flawless (close to God-perfection, I think), and c) people’s voice are heard continuously.

Some of his visions are socialists to the core and I don’t think that’s completely irrational or wrong, either.

I just think that’s too much to ask, specially for country whose foundation is still unstable, affected by too many thoughts but wanted to establish their own ideology.

His critics over people who rule or even have power over him, sometimes frustrated me enough to read.



But Gie, as other human did, also have sweet spots in his tough heart.

I remember in his book, one of last days of his life, he started to feel tingle in his heart while seeing a lot of people along Jakarta’s slum suffer from scarcity, whether from money, place to live, food, or even friends to tag along with. He felt suddenly “heroic”, like he wanted to jump and help this people out, while in his brain he’s calculating whether it was wise and possible enough to bring changes to this world.

That’s a rare condition from person like Gie, who rarely brought his conscience while looking through society. How melancholic Gie that day, made him a “person”, not just walking Casanova with his structured words and broad thoughtful assessment.

Other thing I like about Gie, is how rational He was toward people judgement about him.

I remember, one of the best paragraph he ever written in my opinion, is this (in Bahasa)



“Cinta seorang ibu adalah cinta yang unik. Di satu pihak ia mendidik dan mempersiapkan anaknya menjadi manusia, tapi di pihak lain ia harus merelakan agar anaknya pada suatu hari meninggalkan dia dan pergi dengan orang lain. Ia harus mencintai dengan tanpa pamrih. Tetapi orang-orang tua kadang-kadang tidak mencintai anak-anaknya, tapi dia mencintai dirinya sendiri. Dia memproyeksikan dirinya pada anak-anaknya dan menentukan keinginannya pada proyeksinya ini”

This passage he wrote after 3 rejections from his “lover” with the same single reason.

No family wanted a rebel intruder in their family.

Boys, especially in his unstable age, would be angry all over the place after hearing rejection from family, who don’t even know, or even wanted to know him personally.

But Gie is rational enough, to consider a mother’s heart, instead of only young love that plays mind tricks in both him and his girls.

Although Gie doesn’t believe in things called Love, he did indeed, believe that mother’s love is existed, and beyond everything else, he respected that.



One thing that I do pity him, though, aside from his bad luck of dying so young, is how lonely I felt his whole existence.

Is that because he doesn’t believe there’s higher power above Human power, who always always look after us from Above?

Is that because he always relies on his own, because he couldn’t even afford being dependable to others?